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I have to be vulnerable? 😩 Eww.

Thanks for sharing this valuable insight. In my super-limited experience (because vulnerability is eww), I have found that sometimes I have to ask twice for critical feedback. The first time, the reader is afraid to wound, but by asking a second time, they seem to understand that a *little* wounding is okay. I recently shared a poem with my husband where this happened. The second time he said "I'm not sure this word is best here... it communicates ___." And I was like "YES! That's exactly what I was thinking!" It was validating, even though we/I did not come up with a solution for the problem word.

But I have questions: Do you ever get feedback that you completely write off because the reader just doesn't understand your vision? Or do you still try to find something to take away/incorporate? Basically, are there ever times where you trust yourself/your intuition so much that the feedback doesn't feel helpful? 🤔

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